I had a copper IUD in. Had no problems with it before. Periods were, almost always the same time every month. After one night, and a time he...you know...finished...he did inside me. We didn't worry much about it because I was always getting my period. That wasn't the smartest choice or the brightest thing to say because I know better and so did he. But we were and still are madly in love with one another and things happened. I became that 0.01% person who fell pregnant.
It was a shock to Dean & I. We sat on it for awhile. Trying to figure out our best choice. As some of you know we were only dating for 6 months. Yes we were deeply in love, but with being with someone for that little time you need to think.
Dean knew from the very beginning of our relationship that if I ever became pregnant I was going to keep it. I had already been pregnant two times before and it wasn't the right time for me and the father and we chose to end the pregnancies both times. Dean knew that the last time tore me apart. Because he knew this, but was unsure of what to deiced himself, I sat him down and told him "I am having this baby with, or without you. With you would be the best thing, but if you chose to back away I understand". He sat there that day and told me "I will never leave you and stand by this".
Unplanned or planned, I know that I have the best father beside me through every step of the way
-X
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I agree with X. When people hear those words they usually immediately make up their minds and judge you without even hearing your story. They usually think oh she was must be sleeping around and not using protection. However it can also mean, just wasn't expected and the timing was a surprise.
Me and my boyfriend had talked about kids, but definitely down the road. He had just started a new job and I was looking for one. I hadn't gotten my period for a while and I thought to myself, "No I can't be pregnant! We were being safe all those times being together." Well God had other plans for us and I found out I was pregnant with my son. My world was definitely turned upside down. When I told my boyfriend I was pregnant, he more of just had a blank shocked face look. It took a while for him to wrap his around the fact, but he was super excited and bear hugged me. We had to put some things we had planned and wanted to do before kids.
Even though my son wasn't planned, I wouldn't change what happened as it was a blessing and gift from God.
-E
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This is one I can genuinely relate to! Boyfriend and I talked about having a baby and wanted to wait another year. He has twins already and triplets runs in my family! We wanted more time to spend with his little ones and focus on our careers and doing the traditional route. We wanted to get married and get a house and live that “American dream.” But I had a bad reaction to my birth control and stopped using it. We tried to be careful but biology never fails and we had a little surprise with our positive pregnancy tests. I went through the phases of shock and anxiety then joy and instant motherly instincts.
I hate to admit it, but I was genuinely freaked out to tell family members we were pregnant. “What would they think?” “What will they say?” “Are they even going to support this?” The anxiety rose and I dreaded the day I had to tell someone and get the negative judgments of being pregnant unexpectedly by my boyfriend who has kids already. I got the courage and figured it didn’t matter, this baby was mine and was going to be so beyond loved and supported by me that it didn’t matter! I had to remind myself, it’s no ones business but my own and baby’s dad. To my surprise, our families were in shock but so ecstatic and supportive.
Now being 6 mornths pregnant, moved into our new home, decorating rooms for baby boy and the twins, and getting constant love from all family members fills my heart. A child is never a mistake and really is a true gift and blessing. I know there was a plan and this was my time to become mommy. I look back and laugh at my insecurities of worry about others opinions. This is my life, I made this child and I am the blessed and strong woman who gets to bring him into this world. What a true treasure.
-K
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