Unplanned Pregnancy

A lot of people look at the word Unplanned and instantly start to judge you. Sometimes it just happens. Yes of course if we take the right steps that can be avoided, but sometimes doing what you believe is the best steps doesn't always work out.

I had a copper IUD in. Had no problems with it before. Periods were, almost always the same time every month. After one night, and a time he...you know...finished...he did inside me. We didn't worry much about it because I was always getting my period. That wasn't the smartest choice or the brightest thing to say because I know better and so did he. But we were and still are madly in love with one another and things happened. I became that 0.01% person who fell pregnant.

It was a shock to Dean & I. We sat on it for awhile. Trying to figure out our best choice. As some of you know we were only dating for 6 months. Yes we were deeply in love, but with being with someone for that little time you need to think.

Dean knew from the very beginning of our relationship that if I ever became pregnant I was going to keep it. I had already been pregnant two times before and it wasn't the right time for me and the father and we chose to end the pregnancies both times. Dean knew that the last time tore me apart. Because he knew this, but was unsure of what to deiced himself, I sat him down and told him "I am having this baby with, or without you. With you would be the best thing, but if you chose to back away I understand". He sat there that day and told me "I will never leave you and stand by this".

Unplanned or planned, I know that I have the best father beside me through every step of the way

-X
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I agree with X. When people hear those words they usually immediately make up their minds and judge you without even hearing your story. They usually think oh she was must be sleeping around and not using protection. However it can also mean, just wasn't expected and the timing was a surprise.

Me and my boyfriend had talked about kids, but definitely down the road. He had just started a new job and I was looking for one. I hadn't gotten my period for a while and I thought to myself, "No I can't be pregnant! We were being safe all those times being together." Well God had other plans for us and I found out I was pregnant with my son. My world was definitely turned upside down. When I told my boyfriend I was pregnant, he more of just had a blank shocked face look. It took a while for him to wrap his around the fact, but he was super excited and bear hugged me. We had to put some things we had planned and wanted to do before kids.

Even though my son wasn't planned, I wouldn't change what happened as it was a blessing and gift from God.

-E
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This is one I can genuinely relate to! Boyfriend and I talked about having a baby and wanted to wait another year. He has twins already and triplets runs in my family! We wanted more time to spend with his little ones and focus on our careers and doing the traditional route. We wanted to get married and get a house and live that “American dream.” But I had a bad reaction to my birth control and stopped using it. We tried to be careful but biology never fails and we had a little surprise with our positive pregnancy tests. I went through the phases of shock and anxiety then joy and instant motherly instincts.

I hate to admit it, but I was genuinely freaked out to tell family members we were pregnant. “What would they think?” “What will they say?” “Are they even going to support this?” The anxiety rose and I dreaded the day I had to tell someone and get the negative judgments of being pregnant unexpectedly by my boyfriend who has kids already. I got the courage and figured it didn’t matter, this baby was mine and was going to be so beyond loved and supported by me that it didn’t matter! I had to remind myself, it’s no ones business but my own and baby’s dad. To my surprise, our families were in shock but so ecstatic and supportive.

Now being 6 mornths pregnant, moved into our new home, decorating rooms for baby boy and the twins, and getting constant love from all family members fills my heart. A child is never a mistake and really is a true gift and blessing. I know there was a plan and this was my time to become mommy. I look back and laugh at my insecurities of worry about others opinions. This is my life, I made this child and I am the blessed and strong woman who gets to bring him into this world. What a true treasure.

-K

Teeanna's Birth Story

My name is Teeanna clark. I was asked if I want to tell people about my birth story so I said, why not? It is what gave me the best gift I could ever ask for. I was due on October 17th 2017. I was having lots of constant back pain weeks before my due date. I had a check up on October 17th and i was only about 1cm dilated. They had booked me to be induced for October 24th. I was told that there was only a 5% chance that I would need to be induced. No matter what I did, I couldn't get my body to dilate. On October 24th at 8am, I went to the hospital to get induced. They decided to do the gel. I got my first dosage and went home right after. I went back up a few hours later for my second dosage. My back pain was so bad that I stayed at the hospital to get some morphine. The morphine didn't work that well that about an hour later I was asking for more. The nurse was confused as to why I was in so much pain and asking for more pain meds. She had to check on the baby before she could give me anything more. Come to find out I was in labour but it wasn't active labour and overtime I had a contraction, my sons heart beat went down. I had to be rushed into getting an emergency C-section. The freezing ended up only taking in my legs so I felt them cut me open. They had to put me to sleep to get my son out. I didn't get to see my son til a few hours later. But I cried like a baby when I first held him. He had to be in the NICU for 6 days due to some complications we faced. But he is as healthy as can be! When he was born on October 24th at 11:22pm, he was 7lbs and 15.5 oz. He was 20.75 inches long. His name is Weston William Donald Clark. 

Lets thank Teeana for sharing her story ladies...

Birth Plan

Everyone says how they hope you have a nice smooth easy delivery, but that is easier said then done. They're not the ones going through it. From the beginning of my pregnancy I had always wanted to have a home birth. I felt like it would help me, being in a safe place and surrounded by the ones I loved. I had also read that you could use your tub as a means of pain relief and relaxation and I was all for that as I am one to not deal with pain very well. I took a lamaze class during my pregnancy as well and learned some good breathing techniques and positions that were supposed to help with labor progression.

Did my plan go as I had hoped? Make sure to take a look at E's Labour Story to find out.

You really can only do so much to prepare yourself for labor, cause you really never know what to expect and how your body will handle it. All I can say to you ladies is listen to your body as it was made for this. Let it do the work and follow its lead.

-E
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To just think about going through the birthing process can be a scary thing. Many moms-to-be have different plans and I know sometimes they don't always go the way you've expected.

As some of our readers know, I recently moved to another province in Feburary, so had to figure out how everything was done here. Thank goodness we only live about a 15min drive from the hospital.

I had hope for a moderately quick labour, but that didnt go as planned. I had leaked fluid for a total of about 32hours.

I myself was planning on having a natural birth at the hospital and request an epidural once I was allowed. But sadly I had found out my baby was breached and couldn't even try natural birth. I was devastated. They had told me that I now have to go for a C-section

Even though I had an idea of what a cesarean would be like (my mother had all three children that way), I was not prepared for how mine went. Again, as some of you readers know, before they even started the operation they had to put me under because unfortunately there was an emergency and they had to put me under.

All in all, my birth plan did not go at all how I planned. And that is okay because I now have a beautiful daughter in the end. Sometimes our birth plans don't turn out the way we expect, and we need to be okay with that.


-X
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This topic is one I should really put some personal planning into. I honestly have not thought much about a birth plan or what delivery is going to be like. My mother recently asked me if I knew how many people I was allowed to bring in with me when I go into labor. She continued to talk about how much it would mean to her to see a birth. I had no clue how to answer, how do you choose who is allowed to be in the room? My next doctor's appointment is also the day I have to go register at the hospital, so I guess I will ask and go from there.

I have saved a few e-mails about birthing classes and really think this is something I should go to. I definitely need to learn more and maybe meet some other mommies to pick their brains. Only recently, has the realization set in that my due date is in July and how fast that day is going to come. I am not the type of person to be overly prepared or to ever worry about much; this is a true blessing and a curse. I find myself constantly saying "it'll turn out however it was supposed to." I would like to have a little more anxiety around birth so I can be a little more prepared before the birth of my first child.

The only certain thing I know regarding my birth plan is the fact that I will use an epidural! I have had numerous conversations with my mother who gave birth to my older brother naturally and then to me with an epidural. She didn't have anything negative to say about her natural birth but she did say, "if I had the choice, I would definitely take the epidural."

I do not have much fear about giving birth, I am a firm believer that the plan is already set and I really cannot control what is going to happen or when it is going to happen. I am definitely going to plan a birthing class to learn more and see how I can change my thinking and drill down some more logistics and a plan!

-K